Relationships are an intangible essential, without which life can be spent but not lived. Our lives becoming rich or mundane depends purely upon the kind of relationships we form and nurture.
It takes immense effort and sacrifice to deny yourself something that you want
Forming meaningful relationships is easier said than done, as we are dealing with different human beings and even factors like being related to a person, or knowing a person since a long time does not make it any easier and there is a lot more involved, predominantly a huge amount of give and take. It takes immense effort and sacrifice to deny yourself something that you want and these sacrifices seem very cumbersome at times but in due course they result in something rich and rewarding, making the initial sacrifice look trivial.
A relationship can never be expedited, as the two individuals have to live through situations and only then the relationship begins to take shape.
There is no single approach which works for every relationship, as we are dealing with individuals having different traits and temperaments but one unanimous rule to be followed is giving space and respecting private moments. A relationship can never be expedited, as the two individuals have to live through situations and only then the relationship begins to take shape
Being sensitive to moods and situations is essential and at times we in our desire to help tend to rush with our sympathy, which can result in the emotional withdrawal of the other person, as in certain situations one is not ready to open up immediately. We are even foolish enough to take offense when the other party is not ready to share confidences at that point. We cannot expect to be confided in simply because we desire so and confidences are only exchanged at the right time and in the right mood.
It is to be remembered that every individual has a different capacity for giving
The greatest pitfall for every relationship is expectations and almost all of us consciously or sub consciously fall prey to this, hence very often disappointment awaits us, which leads to resentment and the relationship taking a backward step. It is to be remembered that every individual has a different capacity for giving and it is unwise to expect more than a person’s capability.
Relationship building may have its challenges but maintaining relationships is no easier, especially the long term relationships. As we live through life we face situations that impact our approach and can change our traits in a subtle or even obvious manner. These character changes are not always accepted in a favorable manner by the other party, they initially lead to surprise, then at times disappointment and in unfortunate cases to conflict. It is at this point in a relationship that the trait of giving space can come to the rescue, as a worthwhile relationship should allow freedom, especially freedom of thought and the freedom to evolve as a person
Living through a relationship should ideally lead to a sense of emotional security, but human emotions are fragile and it is possible to feel threatened at times.
Shakespeare very rightly called jealousy “the green eyed monster” and the two essential “bewares” in any relationship are possessiveness and jealousy, one mostly leading to the other. Living through a relationship should ideally lead to a sense of emotional security, but human emotions are fragile and it is possible to feel threatened at times. Ideally the concept of giving space should prevent possessiveness and thus the probability of the intervention of jealousy would also be reduced or eliminated
Even people having led prosperous lives are not completely at peace, unless they have relationships which matter and somebody to share their moments of joy. All said and done, despite challenges, relationships are worth the effort, sacrifice and even the heartache, as they are essential for an enriched and meaningful life.
